Advice on Life: Teenage Outcry
Micah Owens💩
We all need a distraction from ourselves. We all need friends. We all need a distraction from family. We all need a distraction sometimes. Why? Well for starters we’re human. We get upset, we face problems, we cry. In human nature it’s okay to cry. We all cry at times, but some people feel different towards men and crying. Some people believe when men cry, it’s a sign of weakness and vulnerability. It’s not at all actually. For men all over, crying doesn’t make you feminine, nor does it make you look weak. Crying is an emotion shown to tell we’re hurt, someone or something has angered us, or it can mean we’re happy. As humans we all go through many emotions. Sometimes, the only emotion we feel is overwhelming sadness known as depression. Is depression a bad thing? Can it lead to suicide? Can it affect our daily lives? We usually asks these questions when going through a state of sadness that may or may not be depression. Depression can effect a person psychologically, so yes sometimes it can be a bad thing. Depression effects the brain and the way you think. It can change your habits, feelings, and the way you view things. Depression can show you the things you want to see, or the things you don’t want to see. Depression can also sometimes lead to suicide. Over 50 percent of people have committed suicide due to major depression. That’s why most schools teach lessons on depression, or trying to have a healthy mindset. However, some schools regulate from teaching lessons on depression or self harm due to scared parents, scared students, or it being misdiagnosed. In our society today, some will misdiagnose themselves with depression to seek attention from others. This can be a blindspot for people around you who suffer from depression and are severely suffering from it. Misdiagnosing can also be dangerous to yourself. You could be sedated with drugs in your body you don’t need, or be sent somewhere you didn’t want to go. Yet, a big problem that messes kids up mentally is school. You go to school for half your life just to learn things that you most likely won’t need in life. We don’t learn how to survive, pay taxes, or pick careers etc… Most people weren’t born rich either, so you can’t truly plan your life. The best you can do is try hard in school, but even that is super frustrating and doesn’t always work out. So what can you do?… Parents don’t understand today’s society well enough, your school isn’t be very supportive, you feel like your life has been to a stop, you don’t know if you can keep forward… Stop, breath, this is only a moment in your life. This is only the start to your precious life, why take it away?
Now for the real question, how can we prevent all of this. How can we stop this as a teenage society today? Be open, be open to talking with someone. This someone doesn’t have to be your parents, it can be a guidance counselor or any trusted adult. Along with being open, be open to hearing other opinions. Sometimes, it’s good to hear from someone else. Don’t rush yourself either, recovery can talk some time. Sometimes it’s ok to take a day for yourself. You’ll have school for 22+ years in your life, it’s okay to miss a day. Don’t have supportive teachers? That’s okay! There’s always friends who can help you understand, apps that can help, and not to mention older siblings who have been through what you’re going through. As teenagers, it’s better that we support each other than bring each other down. We’re all probably going through the same thing.
Micah Owens💩
We all need a distraction from ourselves. We all need friends. We all need a distraction from family. We all need a distraction sometimes. Why? Well for starters we’re human. We get upset, we face problems, we cry. In human nature it’s okay to cry. We all cry at times, but some people feel different towards men and crying. Some people believe when men cry, it’s a sign of weakness and vulnerability. It’s not at all actually. For men all over, crying doesn’t make you feminine, nor does it make you look weak. Crying is an emotion shown to tell we’re hurt, someone or something has angered us, or it can mean we’re happy. As humans we all go through many emotions. Sometimes, the only emotion we feel is overwhelming sadness known as depression. Is depression a bad thing? Can it lead to suicide? Can it affect our daily lives? We usually asks these questions when going through a state of sadness that may or may not be depression. Depression can effect a person psychologically, so yes sometimes it can be a bad thing. Depression effects the brain and the way you think. It can change your habits, feelings, and the way you view things. Depression can show you the things you want to see, or the things you don’t want to see. Depression can also sometimes lead to suicide. Over 50 percent of people have committed suicide due to major depression. That’s why most schools teach lessons on depression, or trying to have a healthy mindset. However, some schools regulate from teaching lessons on depression or self harm due to scared parents, scared students, or it being misdiagnosed. In our society today, some will misdiagnose themselves with depression to seek attention from others. This can be a blindspot for people around you who suffer from depression and are severely suffering from it. Misdiagnosing can also be dangerous to yourself. You could be sedated with drugs in your body you don’t need, or be sent somewhere you didn’t want to go. Yet, a big problem that messes kids up mentally is school. You go to school for half your life just to learn things that you most likely won’t need in life. We don’t learn how to survive, pay taxes, or pick careers etc… Most people weren’t born rich either, so you can’t truly plan your life. The best you can do is try hard in school, but even that is super frustrating and doesn’t always work out. So what can you do?… Parents don’t understand today’s society well enough, your school isn’t be very supportive, you feel like your life has been to a stop, you don’t know if you can keep forward… Stop, breath, this is only a moment in your life. This is only the start to your precious life, why take it away?
Now for the real question, how can we prevent all of this. How can we stop this as a teenage society today? Be open, be open to talking with someone. This someone doesn’t have to be your parents, it can be a guidance counselor or any trusted adult. Along with being open, be open to hearing other opinions. Sometimes, it’s good to hear from someone else. Don’t rush yourself either, recovery can talk some time. Sometimes it’s ok to take a day for yourself. You’ll have school for 22+ years in your life, it’s okay to miss a day. Don’t have supportive teachers? That’s okay! There’s always friends who can help you understand, apps that can help, and not to mention older siblings who have been through what you’re going through. As teenagers, it’s better that we support each other than bring each other down. We’re all probably going through the same thing.
Little Things Make a Big Difference
Makena Metheny
You never know when someone might be hurting inside, having a rough day, or something is going on that you don’t know about. You probably sat by or talked to at least one person today that was upset inside but continues to only show their happy side. So before we immediately act and say something mean, or be rude, or don’t help out like the should, think about it. If you had something going on that made you upset would you want someone to be mean and add to the stress you are already having? Your answer to that question was most likely no. Being kind is one of the easiest things you can do to help others, and best of all it is free and doesn’t take up time or energy. Kindness can begin with a simple compliment, a smile, or a “How was your day?” You never know when someone really might just need a few encouraging words to be said to make their day. You can also show kindness and respect through your actions. It can be as easy as picking up a pencil or a paper someone dropped, or even helping someone with homework. You can also take a few extra minutes out of your day to talk to someone and have a friendly conversation, or if you know someone is upset you can give them some helpful advice or a quick pick-me-up. It doesn’t matter whether you are friends or not, you never know when you could make someones day by doing something small. So lets make the world a better place and start by being kind!
Makena Metheny
You never know when someone might be hurting inside, having a rough day, or something is going on that you don’t know about. You probably sat by or talked to at least one person today that was upset inside but continues to only show their happy side. So before we immediately act and say something mean, or be rude, or don’t help out like the should, think about it. If you had something going on that made you upset would you want someone to be mean and add to the stress you are already having? Your answer to that question was most likely no. Being kind is one of the easiest things you can do to help others, and best of all it is free and doesn’t take up time or energy. Kindness can begin with a simple compliment, a smile, or a “How was your day?” You never know when someone really might just need a few encouraging words to be said to make their day. You can also show kindness and respect through your actions. It can be as easy as picking up a pencil or a paper someone dropped, or even helping someone with homework. You can also take a few extra minutes out of your day to talk to someone and have a friendly conversation, or if you know someone is upset you can give them some helpful advice or a quick pick-me-up. It doesn’t matter whether you are friends or not, you never know when you could make someones day by doing something small. So lets make the world a better place and start by being kind!
How to Deal with Troubled or "Toxic" Friendships
Makena Metheny
Friendship and relationship problems are very common amongst middle and high schoolers. It can sometimes be difficult to get along with your friends or agree on things. Disagreeing and getting into arguments can lead to rude things being said and could make the situation worse than it already is. It can be hard to "be the bigger person" or have self-control to handle the situation the right way. But let's say you and your friend (or a group of friends) just recently got into an argument, and maybe a few things were said that weren't the nicest. Then, no one could agree on how to make things better or make actually happened. Tensions are high and you don't know what to do. So, you start asking yourself, "Do I keep trying to make the situation better and talk it over with them?" or "Should I distance myself from them and move on?" These situations can be really difficult but here are a few tips to help you through them!
First, figure out what went wrong. See if you can figure out what happened and if you messed up so you can apologize to make things right. Secondly, try to talk to that person (or people) to work things out and resolve the problem. When talking, be sure to stick to the facts and keep calm. Also, try to come up with a compromise that will make things better and benefit each of you. Remember it's a compromise, so you may not agree with all of it. Be sure to let them explain their side of the story as well and be respective while listening. After you have worked out the problem work on the friendship and make sure you are communicating and being nice to one another. But sometimes things don't work out and that's okay, because not every friendship or relationship will work out. It may be best to get "toxic" people out of your life. If you are having friendship or relationship problems try out some of these tips and remember if things don't work out everything will be okay!
Makena Metheny
Friendship and relationship problems are very common amongst middle and high schoolers. It can sometimes be difficult to get along with your friends or agree on things. Disagreeing and getting into arguments can lead to rude things being said and could make the situation worse than it already is. It can be hard to "be the bigger person" or have self-control to handle the situation the right way. But let's say you and your friend (or a group of friends) just recently got into an argument, and maybe a few things were said that weren't the nicest. Then, no one could agree on how to make things better or make actually happened. Tensions are high and you don't know what to do. So, you start asking yourself, "Do I keep trying to make the situation better and talk it over with them?" or "Should I distance myself from them and move on?" These situations can be really difficult but here are a few tips to help you through them!
First, figure out what went wrong. See if you can figure out what happened and if you messed up so you can apologize to make things right. Secondly, try to talk to that person (or people) to work things out and resolve the problem. When talking, be sure to stick to the facts and keep calm. Also, try to come up with a compromise that will make things better and benefit each of you. Remember it's a compromise, so you may not agree with all of it. Be sure to let them explain their side of the story as well and be respective while listening. After you have worked out the problem work on the friendship and make sure you are communicating and being nice to one another. But sometimes things don't work out and that's okay, because not every friendship or relationship will work out. It may be best to get "toxic" people out of your life. If you are having friendship or relationship problems try out some of these tips and remember if things don't work out everything will be okay!
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